Friends Who Flake and Why You Should Get Rid Of Them Right Away

Written By A.Y. Greyson

A.Y. Greyson was born where the parking meter was invented. When she’s not writing (which is rarely) she’s either reading or indulging her wanderlust. Facebook: @aygreyson  Website:  Instagram: @ramblings_of_a_curious_mind


At some point in our lives, we have all cross paths with a flake. The low-key self-centered drama queens who don’t deserve a second of our time. Yet time and time again, we find ourselves making plans with these fickle individuals who always seem to be putting out house fires or saving cats from trees. These lovely people who are prone to an unnatural use of red herring and crushing our dreams with a simple text message. These people are cancer and you should stop sending them Facebook invites or any invites for the matter; because it will always be the same story (albeit a creative story, but a story nonetheless). And when it’s all said and done, you still find yourself in the same predicament. Alone, while your friend is skidding off into the sunset with what little integrity they have left.

Did you know this isn’t only a millennial problem? 

Studies show older adults are just as flaky as Millennials. So, immaturity isn't at the root of this problem. People usually flake because they’re just not interested in what you have planned. Now, I know you’re wondering why did they agree to meet up with you in the first place. Well, I can tell you from personal experience that your "friend" is doing it to be "nice". They overextended themselves on things they really wanted to do. Now, your friend is secretly hoping you forget about it, or let them off the hook gently. 

However, if your friend has flaked on you four times in a row, you’ve got yourself a major problem and should take their imprudent ques as a hint. This is not about overextension. Your friend is clearly not interested in hanging out with you. This could be for a variety of reasons, or maybe they feel the friendship has run its course (which happens sometimes). Though it would be a lot easier if they just said it, rather than taking the coward’s way out.

And speaking of taking the coward’s way out. Did you know boys flake just as frequently as girls, only they use different methods for their "flakiness”? Whereas girls can be a little more upfront, think the slow-fade. Boys are notoriously known for ghosting people. Where he can be actively texting you one moment, and in the next moment, POOF! He’s gone. Just disappears midway through a conversation, only to reappear days later, or worse, he never texts you back, even after you attempt to contact him. Ladies and Gentlemen, that is what you call being ghosted. And they reason he ghosted you is because he’s a flake. 

Now, to all the flakes of this world, it would be nice if you did keep your word from time to time. It would actually be awesome because the reason we keep inviting you out is that we like you. We like your personality. We like the energy you bring to outings. However, each time you flake, you remind us how un-cool you really are and that at the end of the day, you just another “flaky individual” and we shouldn’t bother holding our hats waiting for you to change.