Be Honest When It Matters

Written By Jessica Jordan - I spend my time exploring the human condition through my words and sometimes I choose the right ones that strike my fellow man as well as myself and I’m lucky that my passion is to inspire passion. Facebook: @jessmjordan

Honesty is never easy. Being upfront with your opinions and feelings isn’t meant to be effortless. 

It is hard to be honest because honesty is vulnerability. You are allowing people to judge you based on the truths you feel and think. Lying is always going to be simpler because you don’t have to worry about how others respond to you. Lying makes it less likely that you’ll get hurt. When you lie, you don’t have to care. 

But lying is only good in the moment. For a brief moment you have the satisfaction that comes with protecting your truth, but for the rest of your life you will have the ‘what if’ haunting you. 

What if you were honest? What if you told people how you really felt? What if you were brave enough to call out an injustice? What if you knew how other people truly felt? 

You can run away from people and from places and even from the truth but you can’t run away from the questions. Living without answers isn’t something you can escape. 

Living without answers is the saddest fate because no matter how great your life becomes you will always be wondering about how different it could have been if only you had spoken up. No matter your path you will have the ghost of ‘what if’ following you until the end. 

We are all imperfect creatures. We will never be able to live a life without lies because lying is deceit and deceit is human nature. But we can tell the truth when it matters. 

Tell people you think they’re wrong. Be prepared for their defense. Stand up for someone you see being taken advantage of. Stand up for injustice. When you’re uncomfortable say something. Don’t be a bystander in your own life. 

Tell the person you love that you love them. And don’t beat around the bush about it.

Just say it. Because not saying it is hell. Waking up every day knowing how you feel and keeping it to yourself is torture and life is too short for self-inflicted pain.